“Life is slippery, take my hand.” Jackson Brown
We know that when people feel safe, loved and a have a sense of belonging, they fare much better in life, in our community and in the world.
As we have become more mobile and live further from our families of origin, we need more than ever to know how to create a stable, loving environment with our partner, for ourselves and for our children.
Our romantic relationships/partnerships have more expectations and more importance placed on them than any time in our history. We believe, and research supports, that if your primary relationship provides safety, a sense of belonging and acceptance for who you are, then you will experience more physical health and well-being, accomplish more in your life, provide better parenting for your children (a better future for them) and a host of other benefits.
Sometimes life stressors and circumstances outweigh our ability to stay connected as a team. We hit these rough patches and and begin to get caught up in a negative cycle/dance with each other. We may even begin to wonder if this means we aren’t with the right partner. Most of the time this isn’t the case. It just means we need support and/or coaching to help us get to where we want to be.
Reaching out for help is not a sign of failure. It is a most couragious act and a statement that your relationship is super important to you. In fact, statistics show that most couples wait until 7 years after the challenges start before reaching out for help. By this time the dance is so entrenched, it is much harder to turn around. The earlier you come in, the easier it is to change the trajectory of your relationship.
We see you as the experts on who you are and what kind of relationship you want. We see our role as your “process coach”. We know what it takes to create that experience of safety, belonging, love and respect and we have the roadmap to get you there.
Julie practices Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It is one of only two empirically researched methods of couples counseling. And the results of those research studies show a success rate of 70 -75%. This is a remarkable success given our current 50% divorce rate.
We are here to help you, hopefully sooner than later. Please give us a call so we can begin to turn things around today. (619) 825-5982
Scientific Research Supporting Emotionally Focused Therapy Results
Published on Dec 10, 2013
A landmark study, shows that we can now effectively help couples, not just understand their relationship a little better or fight a little less, but create the secure loving bonds that soothe our brain.