“Life is slippery, take my hand.” Jackson Brown
Remember when you fell in love? That wonderful magical feeling that together you could conquer it all? When people call me, they often say that they want things to “go back to the way it was in the beginning before (fill in the blank) ________ happened. I know you might be wanting that too, but I want something even better!
Life has a way of adding stress and circumstances that can outweigh your ability to stay connected as a team. When you hit these rough patches you and you partner can get caught up in a negative cycle/dance with each other. You may even begin to wonder if this means you aren’t with the right partner. Most of the time this isn’t the case. It just means you need support and/or coaching to help you get to where you want to be.
Reaching out for help is not a sign of failure. It is a most courageous act and a statement that your relationship is super important to you. The longer you wait to reach out for help the more entrenched the cycle becomes. The earlier you come in, the easier it is to change the trajectory of your relationship, forward, into a much deeper, loving connection.
Many of the couples I have worked with have faced challenges beyond the typical life stressors, such as having children, working too much, differences in opinions, housework, etc. While these in and of themselves can be difficult to navigate the following events can cause attachments wounds that really need the support of trained therapist:
- Infidelity
- Death of a child, significant other, parent
- Your own childhood trauma(s)
- Infertility and other pregnancy challenges
- Step-Family/Blended Family challenges
When you commit to working on your relationship and healing this wounds, I have witnessed couples come out stronger, more bonded, and yes, experiencing the magic of love. The depth and strength of your bond develops through healing and repairing those wounds, learning to communicate in bonding ways (instead of that destructive cycle). Through learning how to create an upward spiral of connection, you can become unstoppable in your love.
I see you as the expert on who you are and what kind of relationship you want. My role is more of a “process coach”. I know what it takes to create that experience of safety, belonging, love and respect and I have the roadmap to get you there.
I practice a combination of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy for Couples (AEDP). EFT is one of only two empirically researched methods of couples counseling. And the results of those research studies show a success rate of 70 -75%. This is a remarkable success given our current 50% divorce rate. AEDP is a model that supports connecting deeply to yourself and your partner. You will do most of your therapy work in the room with me and begin to take your experiences out into your own life.
COUPLES SERVICES OFFERED
- Weekly Couples Therapy
We meet once per week for 60 – 90 minutes depending on your needs
- Couples Immersion
This is a wonderful way to do a quick deep dive and get things turned around quickly. Some couples will continue on weekly after this. Format of the Immersion includes:- 1 – 60 minute zoom session for both of you together
- 2 individual zoom sessions to help me understand each of your experiences individually
- 1 or 2 – 6 hour days divided into approximately 4 90 minutes blocks of time with 30 – 60 minute lunch in the middle
- Offered in the safety and privacy of your own home (depending on home location)
- Entrepreneur Couples
Developing a program exclusively for Entrepreneurs and your partner to support you in creating the relationship that you need to help support you in becoming unstoppable in your business.
Don’t wait any longer.
Please give me a call so you can begin turning things around today.
(619) 825-5982
Scientific Research Supporting Emotionally Focused Therapy Results
Published on Dec 10, 2013
A landmark study, shows that we can now effectively help couples, not just understand their relationship a little better or fight a little less, but create the secure loving bonds that soothe our brain.